A TaLyan's chit chat: Love Addicts!

So I thought its time again to share with you some of the chit chat me and my bestie have in our boudoir

A topic that keeps on popping up, are those girls we know who just seem to be "so obssesed" when it comes to love and relations

You know who am talking about, each one of you has that one or two friends who just seem to be a totally different person when it comes to love

They become very needy when they are in a relationship, they smother their partner, they dedicate ALL their time to their partner, they change themselves, suddenly they change with anyone who doesnt support their relationship, they become extra sensitive when it comes to their partner

They tolerate cheating, being mis-treated, being humiliated, being controlled.

They become extra protective, they become very jealous, they dont listen when you state the obvious

Suddenly they alienate all their family and friends from their unbelievable attachment and addiction to their partner.

In the past people would simply tell you: its LOVE, oh great old LOVE

But in certain cases it isnt simple old love, its a whole new level of obssesion and addiction

I dont want to get into very complicating details, but research and study shows that so many brain neurotransmitters, chemicals and hormones play a great role in love

That most of the time, espically in the start of a relationship, the part of the brain that is active during the whole new relation process is the part responsible for drive and challenge

and as expected with any drive and challenge, as it gets harder, the brain works harder to get it and becomes more focused and obssesed on getting it, and the person develops sorta of a "tunnel vision" where all he focuses on is getting his goal- regardless of how he really feels about the person, because now it isnt about love or feelings, its about a winning or loosing a challenge.

In a way that explains why being dumped, makes you want the person much more! Your brain becomes more focused on winning this challenge you lost.

Its probably the reason why all these stupid love guide books tell you about all those : hard-to-get techniques and reason why all old arab poets used to write about التغلي

If you ask me, its stupid, I mean would you want a relationship based on manuiplating a person's brain and hormones? To get them fall madly in love with you based on a drive for winning? okay then answer this, what will happen when after 2 years these chemicals cool down ( and yes research shows that the whole drive phase is just in the begining)  and you both realize you have no true feelings and nothing in common?! that the reason you are together is because you played the hide and seek, hard to get game on the poor guy or girl and messed up their brain?!

But then some people love this meaning-less kinda of craze people will develop for them, they mistake it for being loved and being popular, when its simply like giving a kid a very average gift and then taking it away. The kid even though doesnt like the boring average gift that much, he will obsses about it because you took it away..

So anyhow back to topic, you probably wondering why am I going on and on about these people who are very dysfunctional in love

Well because we have this attitude of saying: ohhh its just love, they are in love, there is nothing to do about it

well HELL NO!

as they say it اذا عرف السبب, بطل العجب

We should deal with our dysfunctional feelings as problems that need to be fixed, and understanding the origin of those dysfunctional feelings will help solve them

That is why around the world there are rehab centers for people who are love addicts, LAA, love addicts anonymous

And in places where such center are not available, you have your regular therapists, life coaches and relationship coaches, now there is no shame in seeing someone and talking about these problems.

If your love life is affecting the way you feel emotionally about yourself, if its affecting your career or school life, if its disconnecting you socially from people, if its alienating your friends, then helll yeah you have a problem!!

here is some useful test that can help you find out if you have a love addiction problem

http://loveaddicts.org/40questions.html

Their website is very helpful, its an organization for love addicts with a whole 12 steps program

I would also recommend everyone to watch this amazing video by Helen Fisher on the study she did regarding the changes in the brain that occurs when a person is in love

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html

And for the people who are big fans of misunderstanding me, listen, I have nothing against love, I love LOVE!

I just dis-like any emotion that is abused, I dislike seeing people who are most of the time strong and in full control of their life, lose this control and make fools of themselves in love

Yes we all do mistakes in love, we all make a bit of fools of ourselves and that is fine

But again there is a limit..when you start loosing your life to any kind of emotion, you know you are heading for rock bottom and you need help

and I just feel glad that science and research can help us understand the origion of the problem in order for us to control it and solve it.

A7ibkom

XOXO
TaLyan's

Bundle of Joy!

Am not a huge animal lover

Actually about two years ago, I couldnt even stand pets!

and then slowly slowly I started to develop mm I wouldnt say love, but some kind of positive feeling towards them

But then I met my animal soul mate!

Seriously!

This cat I met was like no other cat..

He is the most fun-loving, playful, cuddly, attention-seeking, adoreable cat you will ever EVER meet.

I was supposed to buy one of his younger brothers, the 1 month olf kittens, but now am begging the owner to let me buy Tommy

Last night I spent over 3 hours of just playing with this bundle of joy and I didnt get bored a bit

The chemistry between us is un-deniable :P

I hope the owner would agree to sell me Tommy, pray for me

XoXo
TaLyan's

My Fave Beauty Products This Month!

I have been tryin the following products for the past 2-3 months and I think I have found the perfect products for me finally!

I love them, each one of them!

And I thought I would share them with you my beloved readers:

1) Skin Care:

Lancome Toner: Tonique Confort

I have combination skin, an oily T zone, and the rest is sorta of dry. This toner is amazing for hydrating the skin, and at the same time it helps in closing dilated pores.Before all the toners I used, left my skin feeling very VERY tight, but this one when you apply it you could feel your skin getting hydrated and at the same time the pores will become less visible,

Lancome Hydra Zen Neurocalm Moisturiser

 

Again amazing for hydarting the sking and FINALLY I found a moistruizer that doesnt leave the skin feeling oily and sticky, instead the cream is absorbed well and leaves the sking feeling hydrated and matte

Bioderma Sebium Exfoliating Gel

 

The previous two products took care of the dry aspect of my skin, for my oily T-zone, I use this amazing gel from bioderma, I use it twice a week, on a slightly damp face, I massage for 1 or 2 minutes using circular movements and then rinse and dry

It totally controls oil release in my T-zone, and leaves the skin very matte, LOVE IT, and I remember when I was doing my training in the pharmacy for my gradution, all the customers who used to buy this product would come rushing to buy the whole sebum collection, saying that nothing control oil as gently as this product!

2) Makeup Primers

Okay now I have literally tried zillion of those, and finally found the perfect two!

YSL Top Secret Brush: My Morning Primer

 

If you are like me, that is, dont get enough night sleep. You probably wake up with a stressed face that is slightly puffed and that feels extermely tight.

This amazing primer, with extract of caffiene erases the signs of a fast-paced lifestyle. It helps minimize dullness while Light-reflecting micro-pigments capture, reflect and diffuse light over the complexion

You actually feel a slightly burning sensation when you apply it, probably because of the caffiene.

I usually apply it in the morning and then apply mineral based foundation powder and am ready to go

Gurelain Pearl Extract Primer: My night primer

THE ONLY primer that once I apply I feel I can leave home without applying foundation

Its the first makeup base with pearls of light; it contains an exclusive, color-control base to camouflage blemishes and discoloration, it reflects the light, and it makes the skin looky amazing!

I apply it in evening and then usually apply my MAC studio fix foundation and powder

AND FINALLY, MY OH-SO-LOVE NAIL BEAUTY PRODUCT: RIMMEL NAIL WHITE PENCIL

In my job as a medical rep, my hands are the center of focus since am meeting doctors and holding brouchers and detailing them, and the doctors' eyes will always be directed towards the broucher and my nails.

Thats is why it is very important to have very neat, well shaped yet professional looking nails. So Goodbye to orange and lime nailpolish during week days, and hello to french manicure!

But sometimes I dont get a chance to apply french manicure, so my at home solution is the white nail pencil. You apply the pencil below your nail tips to make the tips of your nail look healthy white instead of dull faded yellow.

Its a great solution for all those days where you dont have polish applied.

LOVE IT

Okay thats enough for today ;)

XoXo

TaLyan's

TaLyan is Mesmerized By Kristen Stewart!

We always thought that Kristen Stewart is just, well, average..

But when we saw how she looked in the new photo shoot for W magazine, our jaws just dropped!

She looks so attractive and sexy! Her look is very 60s inspired

Its is a totally new look for her, and I think it totally suits her,

what do you think?

XOXO
TaLyan's

TaLyan Loves Fashionable, Fierce Strong women!

I believe beauty isn't having a great set of genes

I believe beauty is knowning how to work what god gave you, perfect or imperfect!

See I dont fancy a women who is err natrually pretty but doesnt know how to dress, doesnt trim her brows, doesnt know how to walk and talk! Seriously and some people call that "real beauty"

Well, BITE ME...

I also believe personality plays a great role in beauty, and no am not talking about pretending to be a goody two shoes with a big kind heart and a sweet as honey personality fake act

Am talking about women with unique strong personality, who are well "real" when it comes to their personality..

anyhow enough chit chat,

Let me share with you some photos of women who I think are fashionable, fierce strong and know how to work what god gave them!

 Anglina Jolie

well, I mean seriously who can disagree?!

 

"I find flaws attractive. I find scars attractive."
— Angelina Jolie



The truth is I love being alive. And I love feeling free. So if I can't have those things then I feel like a caged animal and I'd rather not be in a cage. I'd rather be dead. And it's real simple. And I think it's not that uncommon. Angelina Jolie



"If I make a fool of myself, who cares? I'm not frightened by anyone's perception of me."
— Angelina Jolie



Ivanka Trump

Lady GaGa

A fashion hero, a strong fierce woman!

"Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore."
— Lady Gaga



live your eyeliner, breathe your lipstick, and kill for each other
-Lady Gaga via twitter"
— Lady Gaga



"It's cooler to be strong."
— Lady Gaga

RiRi



And akeed from the gulf: Shujoon and Haya



 

There is notting more sexy than a woman who is strong, confident and accomplished.

There is nothing more fashionable than a woman who dresses up in her own style

There is nothing more eye catching than a woman who isnt afraid of her own flaws

There is nothing more unattractive than a weak woman..

XoXo

TaLyan's

Spa Review: Ayana Spa

So as I have mentioned in an earlier post am a saloon and a spa addict

I do have two fave spas that I rank as top in Oman

I wont reveal their names now, until am done reviewing all the spas that I have tried and visited..

Today am reviewing a spa that well many people recommended for me, so I decided to give it a try even though it isnt one of my faves that I regulary visit

I went throught their treatment lists and I chose the following treatments:

Chocolate body scrub

Signature Sculpt and Relax massage

Slimming Bath

Now please note am going to review the spa as compared to other spas I have visited here in Oman, and I chose specificly treatments that I have tried a couple of time before at other spas, just to be fair..

Reception and atmosphere:

The place is nicely decorated, music played is relaxing, and the place smelled like flowers and aromatic oils, so far so good!

and then I was guided to the locker room and was met by my therapist, I changed and headed to my first treatment: the chocolate scrub!

I was taken to the following treatment chamber:



well it was this room, except minus the lovely candles and flowers.

The therapist started scrubbing me with the chocolate scrub, and well am sorry to say this my beloved readers, but I couldnt wait for it to end!!

The scrub smelled well, it didnt smell sweet and choco-lic as I expected, and honestly the woman who was scrubing me wasnt doing a good job

If I had to describe it I would say: it felt like my house maid was giving me a bath, but was doing a very bad, lazy ass, job at it! and was asking for my help in it..

and then it was time for my sculpt and relax massage

well there was alot of sculpting and no relaxing, thats what I can say...

and finally it was time for the slimming bath

and honestly this was the only part of my treatment that I enjoyed, maybe because it didnt involve the therapist..

So anyhow in total conclusion:

The place is well prepared and built to be the perfect get-a-away

however the therapists working there arent well trained and prepared

Honestly, I wont go there again, unless someone assures me that I will get a better therapist, and yeah a more friendly receptionist..

So TaLyan's score out of 10: 6/10

Xoxo
TaLyan's

Leighton Meester Brows: Hot or Not?

Anyone who knows me, knows I have this great obssesion with eyebrows

I love them well defined

I think they play a huge role in your overall look

So anyhow when I saw Leighton Meester in Gossip Girl season 4 last episodes growing her brows thick and sorta of bushy I didnt like them at first

But then, surprise surprise, I started to become a fan of her natrual brows

I think it gave her a very youthful look and it also helped give her some kind of an edge

I was totally in love with her brows when I saw those photos from her photo shot, I mean the brows made her look so sophisticated

I think they are lovely for a change

Nevertheless if you planning on keep your brows bushy and natrual, mind you, it does require work and it isnt all natrual.

Please make sure you brush them, cut out any VERY long hairs, try to achieve a common height between both without making it seem plucked and drawn

Also pluck any small hairs above or below, natrual doesnt mean dirty..please no small green hairs!

Tell us what do you think of her brows, hot or not?

xoxo

TaLyans